Is not clapping for the response part of your reply?

TMI? Did I transgress and say something inappropriate?

Or do you simply disagree with the idea that you can "let go of things and move forward"? You state, "that you can't just get past something that happened to you". So, clearly we are of differing mind on this point.

I recently told someone that "I do not live in my past. I live in my now, and I carry no baggage". What else can you do when you have to get past something that happened to you and it's your only option?

We can forgive our parents a multitude of sins as we get older and appreciate the stresses they were under. The events that shaped them before they became parents themselves.

You have had a reconciliation with your mother because you have more empathy for her now. AND, she is trying, she is making an effort. She has remorse and guilt and wants to have a better relationship with you.

If you cannot get that from a parent, if they refuse to acknowledge that their behavior harmed you then what choice do you have but to let go of that baggage and move forward. If you don't, you have to carry it with you forever.

Anyway, that's a query and a position statement. You don't have to answer either but if you dislike the response intensely. I will delete it.